Twenty-three years ago today I married my best friend. We got married on November 11th (11-11) because he had trouble remembering dates. 11-11 is kind-of hard to forget, and it’s also Veteran’s day. I picked November because my parents were married in November and because I don’t like warm weather. I couldn’t see myself sweating in a wedding gown on a hot, humid day and I certainly didn’t want to pass out in the heat.
The day we wed in 1989 was cold, a little windy and rainy. We went north for our honeymoon instead of some place exotic. Neither one of us are sun-worshippers, nor could we afford a big trip. The first night we spent in Niagara Falls and the rest of the week we spent in Toronto. It snowed while we were in Toronto. We had fun anyway, walking around and seeing the sights. He had never been to some of the places we went, and I had fun showing him around the town.
Our first apartment was a two bedroom apartment at Norton Village. We spent 4 years there, and we welcomed our first son, Matt in 1990. We moved to our house in Gates when Matt was 3. We moved because we wanted to grow our family, and we also did not want our son to attend Rochester City schools. We bought our house in North Gates in 1993. Our second son, Alex came along in 1995.
|Our first "home" - 2139 Norton Street|
|Our house in Gates|
We have had our trials and tribulations over the past 23 years. We have lost parents and other loved ones. We have dealt with ADHD, Autism, Diabetes, Celiac disease, high blood pressure and high cholesterol. We have dealt with job losses several times and the financial hardships that always followed. We have lived with a long distance relationship for several years now and only see each other on weekends. We don’t see any end to the separation any time soon, but we also believe that has made our relationship stronger.
So Happy Anniversary, honey. I can’t believe it’s been 23 years already. I can’t say that every second of it has easy, but having you by my side has made the tough times easier to bear. I feel we can get through anything together.
Oh, and Happy Veterans’ Day!